To those who are so insensitive that you don’t know how to put yourselves in someone else’s shoes:
Have you ever heard that analogy that goes something along the lines of, “if you view a maze from a bird’s eye view it’s much easier to figure the way out then going through it with the walls surrounding you”?
Well, if you haven’t heard of it: Essentially the idea is that your mentors and friends have a “bird’s eye view” when it comes to your problem because it’s not them that’s going through it. They can give clear and solid advice on what to do – how to get out of the maze – because they can see exactly how it ends and they aren’t intimidated by its formidable walls.
But you – the one who is going through said maze – cannot see where the end awaits, or if there’s even an ending, because somehow it feels like there never really is one.
Well we all sit here and wonder why the person going through the maze/problem doesn’t just listen to the friends and mentors, gauging which turn to take and eventually get themselves out of the situation.
But what we don’t sit and talk about is the trauma that goes on around each turn, each corner, each left or right. The battle that the individual faces in the maze, the invisible problems. We’ll call them “mental blocks.”
The mentors and friends may be able to guide you out of the maze because they know exactly where to make each turn, but they can’t save you from the emotional pain – those mental blocks – that each step creates.
Not to mention the amount of trust it takes to listen to these people guiding you.
Why are they doing it?
What’s their secret agenda?
Everyone’s got one, right?
What really happens when you turn around that corner?
They’re just trying to set you up for failure.
Or at least, that’s what it can feel like.
So please, next time you see someone going through a problem that you find easy to face, think again and bare in mind the struggle that they’re going through that you simply just can’t see.